Super difficult choices
When people are rude to you, when people are mean…you have two choices. You have two paths to follow. Yes !
Accept or let go.
Both of them are super difficult choices and Hirav Shah explains how to go about it, in this article. Hirav Shah is the name behind many successful brands all across the globe.
Firstly, Hirav Shah shares generalized tips as to how to deal with mean folks.
How To Deal With Rude and Mean People
1. Share all Real Emotions with Real People
If something matters deeply to you, avoid sharing it with a toxic or difficult person. Only share with friends who will support, cheer for you, and uplift you – even if they’re your social media friends. Draw this as a solid boundary. Do not give them ammunition.
2. Good To Keep Interactions Superficial
No deep talks, heart-to-hearts, etc. If you have to communicate with them, keep it light. Talk about climate change, what kind of coffee you like, or something else no one really cares about and can’t pain you with. In advance, have some topics lined up so that, you can pull out when needed. (it makes it look natural)
Also, keep it short! No need to have lengthy conversations with them. Have a brief chat about the weather and that’s it. It aids you to keep it light. The less interaction and time with these people, the better.
3. Keep Your Dreams To Only Yourself
Rude and mean guys are too often dream-killers and/or they will find ways to ridicule, mislead you, or stomp on it. Gift yourself with optimism and hope…it will get you closer to your hopes and dreams than these guys ever will.
If they ask you what you are gunning for, reply to them saying “I’m not quite sure!” or something else. Meanwhile, be working for your goals and moving ahead.
4. Good To Be Upbeat/Positive With Them
No matter how you are really feeling, just stay upbeat and positive with this person in your brief interactions. Rude, mean, difficult and toxic people might attack you still (it might confuse them), but when they see weakness, they attack worse and more savagely.
Actually, it isn’t a great thing to be fake, but this is self-preservation. It’s a shield that is used for these people only.
Final Thoughts
Last, but not the least, you can block toxicity out of your life. You can block toxic people out of your life. But if you are stuck, you gotta accept. If you cannot accept, you stay stuck in suffering, you stay stuck in distress…
Acceptance is difficult, but it’s not impossible.
You always have a choice. Accept or let go. The choice is yours. Indeed, entirely yours.
All you need is strength. All you need is courage. All you need is the power. All you need is energy. All you need is the spirit.
But, it is up to you to decide how you want your life to be-Concludes Hirav Shah, India’s Leading Business Transformation Expert and Business Advisor.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do you respond to someone who is disrespectful?
Respond with kindness and smile. You will see things unfold, which you would never have imagined.
How do you shut up a rude person?
Acknowledge or avoid. These are the keys.
Should you tolerate disrespect?
Never ever. Never do. The more opportunities you give someone, the less respect they’ll start to have for you.
How do you tolerate ignorant people?
The best deal is to ignore them and be kind.
