So many successful people credit their sense of self and their confidence to their success. But not many people really explain how to build confidence, or how to become confident – Says Hirav Shah, Noted Influencer, Thought Leader and Business Strategist.

In Hirav Shah’s Words- Self-confidence means being assured in your own worth, ability, and power, regardless of the situation you are in.Your level of success in life is directly proportional to your levels of confidence and self-belief.

Here are Hirav Shah’s tips, techniques and suggestions to build an unshakable self-confidence

1: Challenge Yourself


Face your fears! Make sure that you are doing one thing that challenges you,


Real growth comes from pushing your limits. Imagine if you are pushing your limit every day. You will surely conquer.

By doing this you’ll feel strong, free and ultra-confident.

2: Confident Body Language


Confidence is in the way you move.

Even if you don’t feel confident, practicing body language can dramatically increase your self-confidence and make you feel better about yourself.

Here are some tips to increase your confidence through body language and creating your own CONFIDENT POSE.

  • Eye contact. Make eye contact in social interactions. This will make you oozing with confidence. This gives the other person a sign that you are interested in and comfortable. Aim for eye contact about 60% of the time. If looking the other person straight in the eye feels too intimidating, try looking at a spot close to the person’s eyes, they won’t notice.
  • Stand Straight. People with a low-confidence level tend to try to take up as little space as possible. Be different. Straighten your back, pull your shoulders back and uncross your arms and legs.
  • Dressing: Dress smartly. Look presentable. Have a clean and kept look.
  • Firm Handshake. Make sure you are offering a firm hand when meeting others. This makes you look very confident about yourself when you are meeting others.
  •  Lean forward. In a conversation, lacing forward indicates interest and attention.
  • Think about your idols. Pick out your own hero who’s oozing confidence. Be THAT person when you go into your confident pose.

3: Spend Time With Confident People


You are the average of the 5 people you spend time with most.

If you are struggling with self-confidence, look into you social circle.

How much time do you spend with people who are ultra confident?

How often do you hang out with people who inspire and motivate you to be better?

Try and spend time with confident people.
It’s essential to boost confidence in you.

4: Don’t Compare Yourself

Nothing destroys your confidence more than comparing yourself to others. This is especially true in the time we are living in. Social media brings forth the wonderful opportunity to judge and destroy yourself?

When we go on applications on Instagram we see examples of people who have made it, people who look perfect. Lack of confidence comes from a gap where you see yourself and where you think you should be. Social media is the best tool for exposing this gap and destroying your confidence.



Instead of always comparing yourself to others, compare to yourself. See how far you have come, and be satisfied!

Positive self talk.

Keep a gratitude journal. A gratitude journal is a way to remind yourself of what you have. This will help you look at things that you may have taken for granted.

Understand that you are in control of your life. It is tough to resist comparing yourself to others. But you are ultimately in control of your life. You make choices to lead your life in a particular way. You make decisions that are best for you, not for anybody else.

5: Try, Fail, Adapt, Try Again

Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.

Confidence is all about putting the outcome aside. Remember that everything is a lesson and you will gain confidence.

There are no failures, only learning opportunities. This is a fundamental mindset for success and confidence. Failure is inevitable, but it can be a positive thing for you rather than a negative thing.

Ever heard of Michael Jordan? The arguably greatest Basketball player ever was once cut from his high school team. Did he give up? No, he ended up conquering the NBA.

As Jordan puts it, “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

Maybe your presentation didn’t go as well as planned? No harm done. You’ve just learned how to do it better next time.

If you let the outcome be everything you will never manage to silence the voice of doubt inside your mind. You will always criticize yourself.

BUT. Instead of saying.

“I failed”.

Say this.

“Nice, you are one step further in your process, the next time I will do it even better!”

Focus on doing your best and be confident in every situation. This will take you so much further.

6: Action, Action and Action

Self-Confidence comes from achievements. How do you achieve something? The first step is always action. Nothing will happen in your life if you don’t dear to take the first step.

It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.” – Leonardo Da Vinci

Bill Gates, Elon Musk and Jeff Besos.

All these guys were proactive. They saw opportunities and grabbed them with both hands.

In the end, it all comes down to this.

Nothing will happen unless YOU decide to take action!

Only when you act, will your life change and improve.

7: Just Observe Confident People

The world is filled with extremely confident people that you can learn something from.

Want a couple of examples: Cristiano Ronaldo, Dwayne Johnson, Elon Musk, Angelina Jolie, Tom Cruise, Virat Kohli, Shah Rukh Khan.

Create a document. Write down your idols and what you can learn from them.

Knowledge is power and you can always learn something from anyone. Be humble, and learn from others.

Final Thoughts:

Having low or high self-confidence is mostly based on your perception of your abilities. It is rarely related to your actual abilities. Therefore, improve your self-image.Then you will experience an increase in self-confidence.This will certainly have a positive impact on your life, relationships and work.

It’s a wrap.
Now it’s time to take action, Concludes Hirav Shah.