Since we will be discussing strategies to make friends and Influence people in this article, on that note, Hirav Shah whose advice, opinions and answers have helped many struggling businesses to reach out to the “next level”, Quotes- Your Influence is seen and felt by everyone in your circle. If people around you see you growing, that might inspire them to grow. If they see you do better, they might think they can do better. If you set the example, maybe they will follow.
But, the most fundamental of all these is to first “win friends over” so that they are influenced for the good, by below ways.
Table of Contents
1.Being Interested In Others
The one topic every person you meet is very interested in is, themselves. So if you take an active interest in this topic as well, people will be very appreciative of your attention. One of the biggest ways we can show interest in someone is by attentively listening to them speak. People love to talk, and they love to talk about themselves. So if you are a person who they know takes interest and likes to hear about their favorite topic, they will like you in return.
2. Taking Your Sweet Time
There is no rush. Who cares if the elevator doors open and you get out? Keep the conversation going, exchange info and schedule a call or meeting. It doesn’t have to end there.
3. Leaving Them Wanting More
Yes, leave them wanting more. By asking great questions, being genuinely interested, and authentically offering value, your conversation partner will naturally want to reciprocate. Let them ask you questions that allow you to share more, don’t force it upon her.
4. Sharing A Concise Reply
Sometimes people ask questions to be polite or fill space. Other times they’re genuinely curious. When someone asks you something, consider sharing a thoughtful and concise reply, allowing them to decide whether or not they’d like to know more. It can be overwhelming if you go into a monologue. Trust that you’ll be asked if you strike a point of curiosity.
5. Framing Appropriately
I help ____ to _____. This is a framework you may like to use when someone asks, “What do you do?”. Well, that or, “Whatever you can get away with!” It’s to the point, shares your audience, your value and creates an opening to learn more.
6. Ensuring A Swift Apology
Nothing will make people less defensive and more agreeable than you being humble and reasonable enough to admit your own mistakes. Having strong and stable personal and professional relationships relies on you taking responsibility for your actions, especially your mistakes. Nothing will help end tension or a disagreement more than a swift acknowledgment and apology on your part.
7. Avoiding An Argument, If Possible
The best way to win any argument, is to avoid it.Even if you completely dismantle someone’s argument with objective facts, you won’t be any closer to reaching an agreement than if you made personal arguments. “A man convinced against his will/Is of the same opinion still.” Don’t Attempt To “Win” An Argument . At the end of the day, let there be no excuses, no explanations, no regrets, Quotes Shah.
8.Showing Appreciation
One of the strongest needs we as humans have is the need to feel appreciated. It could be said that the greatest achievements mankind has ever made were all in an effort to seek praise and approval; in other words, to be appreciated. If you want people to like you and to do favors for you they must know you will sincerely praise them afterwards. Few things make someone feel better than to sincerely be told they have done a job well. Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.
9. It’s All About The Long Game
Make it your goal to be friends, not to do business. Talk with people the way you talk with your friends. There’s no need to be stuffy or formal. In fact, the trick is to always make it your goal to connect with someone first as a friend, and then you know as someone you want to have in your circle for a long time, regardless of what they do, or how they can help. It’s all about the long game and enjoying the people with whom you surround yourself along the way.
10. Gratitude, Gratitude, Gratitude
If you want a magic bullet that will increase your influence, embrace gratitude. Gratitude is an immensely powerful way to bring something incredibly valuable to the people in your life. It doesn’t even take a whole lot of effort.
For gratitude to make a difference, it has to be sincere, and it has to be expressed regularly. It doesn’t have to be complicated. Think of something the other person did that made your life easier. Maybe they went above and beyond to do something that you needed. Perhaps it’s a customer who has just started buying from you. It could be an employee who works hard for you. It could be anybody.
Then, figure out the best way to express the fact that you’re grateful for them. For some, it’s easier to do this verbally. Others might feel more comfortable writing a short note or an email. If you want, you can even get creative with the way you express gratitude. Be grateful to the people who make you happy; they are the charming gardeners who make your souls blossom.
Final Thoughts
To empower your “roadmap to success”, you got to sail through all hurdles and hindrances with your grit, determination and strategy, also with your “Friends” by your side as your cheer leaders and support system, Concludes Hirav Shah, Eminent Business Strategist, and Business Astrologer.
